With so much uncertainty, our default reactions can be triggered by stressors that can bring out some weird things. But remember, there is always a reason why people do the things that they do. Everyone is affected by COVID-19 in one way or another. Small businesses are struggling to keep their doors open, employees are getting laid off, individuals including myself have no pay or minimal work for several weeks, parents are scrambling for childcare, low income families may not be able to put food on the table or pay their rent, and much more. Please remember to be compassionate, kind, and respectful of others. We may not have control of how others choose to respond, but we can choose how we do. And remember... this too shall pass.
I am currently on day two of quarantine and I am not going to lie, I am going a little stir crazy. I am so used to going outside, socializing with people throughout the day, teaching my classes, and driving around town. Yet, this time in quarantine doesn't necessarily need to be boring, unproductive, and useless. We can still make valuable use of our time while giving ourselves permission to rest when needed.
Here are some tips to make valuable use of your time during quarantine:
Accessibility in Yoga
When I first began teaching, I solely taught public classes at various studios and gyms. I remember the excitement of getting my first class on the regular schedule. One by one I added more classes until I was averaging 10-15 per week. It worked for a while until I realized it wasn’t sustainable. I was getting sick all the time and felt burnt out. I then decided to expand my offerings to include private classes and yoga retreats. This is where I really shined. When teaching my private classes I enjoy creating a personal experience just for them based on their goals, wants, and needs. When leading my retreats, I get the opportunity to travel and build a deeper connection with my students through the yoga practice. So, for about 3 years I focused on these offerings.
My mission has always been to make yoga accessible for everyone and to teach based on an individual’s unique experience within the practice. Yet, when I sat down and re-evaluated the focus of my work, I saw some gaps.
Although there is value in taking public classes, going on yoga retreats and experiencing private yoga, I realized that daily challenges may prevent us from starting or maintaining a yoga practice. A lack of time, finances, resources, accessibility, and many other factors could play a huge role in this. Once I mapped out these challenges, I set out to try and offer yoga to as many people as I can and through as many offerings as possible. Therefore, I created my online classes and virtual private classes to fill in those gaps.
Online classes allow you to practice from literally anywhere in the world. My classes range from five minutes to an hour and I offer a wide variety because I know everyone is on a different journey. There is everything from pose breakdowns to restorative classes, chair yoga, morning and evening classes, guided meditation, educational workshops, trigger point therapy, and much more. My online subscription is also extremely friendly for your wallet and allows you to practice at your own convenience without feeling self-conscious.
My virtual private classes are a bridge between my online subscription and public or private in-person classes. Thanks to technology, you can take a private class with me from anywhere in the world. All you need is access to Skype, Google Hangouts, or even FaceTime in a pinch. You will get the same personalized class plan from me at half the cost of an in-person private.
Now that I expanded my offerings to include public classes, private lessons, retreats, my online class subscription, and virtual privates you can integrate a yoga practice that meets your lifestyle demands.
In the weeks following the shocking news of the passing of Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna, and the 7 other people in the tragic helicopter crash, I have been at a loss for words. They say death is the hardest on the living especially for the families of those affected, but in this instance, I think the whole world is in mourning. After reading articles, watching interviews and seeing the outpouring of love and support at Kobe’s memorial and around the world it is clear that his impact is far-reaching.
Although, I initially felt as though my words would be insignificant, self-indulgent, and unnecessary, I have come to realize that if I doubt my own value, experiences, and words then how can I leave room for others to share their own?
I know life must go on, but I feel that in order to do so, it is important to reflect.
When I was a kid, my parents enrolled my brother and I in all sorts of activities. I tried tee-ball, soccer, gymnastics, hula, swimming, and volleyball. But from the age of five, basketball was my sport. The pure adrenaline of playing man-to-man defense. The roar of the crowd after making a basket. The thrill of blocking a shot or stealing the ball from my opponent. The camaraderie of being a part of a team. I loved every part of the game. I loved playing so much that even when I was given a rest on the bench, I would take a quick sip of water and go up to my coach and say, “Let me back in, I want to play.”
I remember watching Kobe and being in awe of his confidence, dedication, focus, and will to succeed. I always admired his ability to celebrate his wins without worrying about what other people might think of him; that is something that I have always struggled with. He inspired me to chase after my dreams no matter how big or small and to believe in myself.
Being on the court was truly the first place I experienced being in the zone, the equivalent of meditation in yoga. This is where I learned discipline, focus, determination, skill, intention, the importance of practice, as well as success and failure.
So now, whether I am throwing a wad of paper in the trash or grinding out the work to chase after my dreams I will be saying to myself, “Kobe!” Because it is the Mamba mentality that challenges us to push the envelope, work harder, and dream bigger. He has made an impact on my life and through his actions, showed me that anything is possible.
One of my dreams is to make yoga accessible to everyone to the best of my abilities. For years, students have approached me and asked whether I offer online classes or guided audio meditations. My response would always be, “eventually” or “one day.” So, I came up with excuses. I would say to myself, “I’m not ready,” “I don’t know how to edit videos,” “It is too time-consuming,” you name it. But I finally bit the bullet and decided to go for it.
I am excited and proud to announce that as of today I have officially launched my online yoga class library. I put my heart and soul into this and can’t wait for you to see it.
In The Cards
Over the weekend, I got together with long-time friends for a much-needed girls’ night. We caught up over sushi, picked up ice-cream for dessert and tried out my friends’ new Tarot Card deck. It was fun, exciting and nostalgic; like we were kids again.
We decided to pull Tarot Cards on our past, present and future. One by one we shuffled, cut and pulled our cards then shared about our experiences in life that may or may not connect with the cards. It was a wonderful and unique opportunity to reflect and verbally journal about all the challenges and growth we have made and are yet to make in our lives.
I was the last one to pull my cards. I flipped my three cards and revealed the rabbit card for my past, snake for my present, and zebra for my future.
The Rabbit: Past
The rabbit represents being scared of the future which can lead to becoming our own worst enemy. I found this to be very true. I have always been a worrier and oftentimes stressed out about the future. So much in fact that it would affect my sleep and cause stomach aches. I still struggle with this part of myself, but I find the more I try to suppress or fight against it the more problems it creates. These qualities that I used to identify with to be the worst in myself, I am slowly learning to embrace and value.
The Snake: Present
The snake is the guardian of un-awakened magic and creative potential. When in balance this energy can mean prosperity, creativity and charisma. When out-of-balance this energy can lead to starting and stopping many things. Hmm… another interesting card. I shared with my friends that in the week leading up to my wedding I decided to write down personal and professional goals that I wanted to complete or begin by the end of 2019. One of those goals is to offer yoga online. I want to offer guided meditation, tutorials, classes, workshops, and educational tools. This is something I am currently working on. Even though I have absolutely no experience in film or editing, I am taking the steps towards where I want to be. I purchased all the film equipment, booked the Airbnb to shoot the content, and will essentially figure out the rest as I go. I plan to launch my online yoga classes January 1st.
The Zebra: Future
Lastly, the zebra symbolize the young at heart, well-cultured, and curious about life. This card got me really excited because in 2020 I have plenty of travel and adventure planned. In January I will lead a retreat to kick off the new year in San Luis Obispo, present at Elysia Yoga Convention in Greece in March, and in September I will lead a summer retreat in Mallorca, Spain. I highly value experiencing different cultures, meeting new people, and exploring new territory. It lights my soul on fire.
I personally don’t believe that my life is determined by these cards, but sometimes all we need is a little affirmation telling us that we are headed in the right direction.
I am finally settled back at home and getting back into the groove of things after a fun and exciting summer. In June I led a retreat in Amorgos, Greece, got married in August and in September led my final retreat of the year in Ubud, Bali. With such an eventful season, I was left feeling a little bittersweet. I was relieved that I didn’t have the stress of planning the wedding, but sad it was over because it was such an incredible day. I was grateful for my travels in Greece and Bali but wishing I could go back.
Of course, this is how the mind works. We love an experience and want to hold onto it forever or we hate an experience and want to avoid it all together. These attachments, aversions, and expectations create suffering. So instead of feeling sad that all these wonderful experiences have come to an end, I decided to reflect on what I learned or valued from each experience. This allows for the opportunity to appreciate without clinging. After all, when something ends, it allows for a new beginning.
From my time in Greece I appreciated the European lifestyle of slowing down and enjoying conversation with good company over amazing food and wine. From my wedding day, I truly valued living in the moment and taking a look around to see and experience pure love. And from my time in Bali, I was reminded to not just practice or teach yoga but to live it in every way possible.
Now you try… What did you learn, value, and cherish from your summer? And how can you take those experiences forward into the fall season?
Outside the Bubble
A question I am often asked as a yoga retreat leader is, “How do you decide on where your next yoga retreat will be?” Of course, it is exciting to travel to new places that I have never been before, but more importantly it broadens my perspective and offers valuable lessons. In my role as a yoga teacher, experiencing different cultures reinforces what yoga means, "to yoke" or "connect." My students and I get to see first-hand that even if there are cultural differences, deep down inside we are connected because we are the same. We forget this.
I was born and raised in the South Bay of Los Angeles. So, for most of my life, aside from a year of college in New York, I have always lived and worked in the bubble of the South Bay. If you are from Los Angeles, you know for traffic reasons that you probably don’t venture outside of your bubble often. Because of this, we can become desensitized to the world around us.
I am finally settled back in my bubble after nearly 3 weeks in Greece. For the first half of my trip my fiancé and I explored Athens, Mykonos and Santorini. The last 8 days were spent on the island of Amorgos where I lead my yoga retreat. In this time, I learned several things about the customs and culture. The plumbing system isn’t as advanced as in the U.S. Let’s just say that you can’t flush toilet paper in the toilet. The people say, “no problem at all,” even if it might be big problem. And according to our tour guide, the sharks are vegetarian. But jokes aside, traveling to Greece reinforced why I lead yoga retreats in the first place. By trying different foods, exploring a new culture, meeting new people, and experiencing new sights, we expand our perspective.
On one of the guided tours with my retreat group, we went to a monastery called Agios Georgios Valsamitis. The nun who lives there opened her home to us and even served homemade cake. She was an interesting woman who had a family and children in Athens and decided to stay on Amorgos and inhabit that monastery after visiting the island on vacation. She has been living in the monastery as a nun for 9 years. Prior to her the last nun to live there died in the 19th century. As she explained the history and art of the monastery she left us with a few words. She said that animals in the world kill to survive, but that humans can kill for much worse. So, she asked us to pray for peace in the world. This brought tears to my eyes and opened my heart to the idea of praying even though it is not something I normally do.
After traveling halfway around the world to the small island of Amorgos with a population of only 2,000. A nun living in her own bubble (the monastery) reminded us that no matter where you come from, what you do or where you live, we all ultimately want the same things. To be happy, healthy, safe, and free. This is a learning lesson we can all be reminded of.
After my wedding in August I am heading off to another retreat. This time in Bali, Indonesia, part of the world that I have never been to. Another culture to experience and new people to meet and make connections with. That is why I am calling it Bali Yoga and Culture Retreat. Perhaps this retreat is the perfect way to get out of your bubble and reinforce your yoga practice through the educational experience of travel and cultural immersion.
In my yoga classes, I give my students freedom to explore in their practice and permission to move their bodies in untraditional ways. Recently when teaching Warrior II in class, I encouraged my students to discover what felt right for their bodies instead of looking at the alignment of their feet or knee over their ankle. I asked, “Do you feel pain or stress in your inner back knee? If the answer is yes, see what it feels like to step your back foot wider towards the side of the mat." I then asked, “Do you feel too much torque on your front hip or lower back? If so, try stepping your front foot wider towards the side edge of the mat or allow your front leg to rotate less externally." I encouraged my students to ask how they felt and to deviate from the "normal" alignment in favor of what felt better in their body. I saw glimmers of “aha” moments where students looked at me with excitement for being given permission to color outside the lines.
However, one student decided to say out loud, “but that is not right.” Her remark triggered something inside me. It reminded me of guru-like teachers not allowing for open conversation. It was as if a child asked, “why” and the teacher or parent said, “because, I said so.” Not a good enough answer for me. Unfortunately, I did not have the time to start a full-on conversation with her, but I did have the space to continue to show her what I meant. I said, “Instead of taking my word, try it for yourself. Ask questions, critically think, and be with each process.
We forget that we aren’t robots. We are constantly reminded by magazines and social media about what the “norm” should be. It has gotten better over the years, but we still see ideals of what our bodies “should” look like and in yoga land we see pictures of how our bodies should line up perfectly. So of course, it is easy to believe that narrative.
But remember, asana is just one tool to help us become more self-aware and to be present with what is. So, if we get caught up on the specifics of how the asana looks, we are missing the point of the practice all together.
My question is, if the traditional alignment of asana is causing pain, injury, or a lack of connection, perhaps we should try another alternative. Otherwise we are just being insane. One of my teachers said, “Instead of using the body to get into the pose, use the pose to get into the body.” In other words, the pose is just an idea. So why not take the idea and find ways to implement it in your own unique structure knowing every day is different?
As I said, don’t take it from me. Try it for yourself. I am leading a workshop on July 28th called Adapting Poses for Your Body. I would love for you to join me. Together we will break down the mechanics behind common yoga poses that are practiced in yoga asana classes and find fun and unique ways to apply it to you.
You Can Sit With Us
Every retreat that I have led had a unique group dynamic. However, my most recent one felt extremely special, because it was my first all-female retreat. Upon arrival last Thursday, I could tell that everyone was a bit hesitant and nervous. I was a little nervous too. I distinctly remember thinking, “Why are you nervous? This isn’t your first retreat.” However, at the time, I couldn’t figure out why.
As we sat down for our meet and greet at dinner, the energy was a bit reserved and polite. During introductions, I asked everyone to go around the table and tell us how long they have been practicing yoga, what they are looking forward to from the retreat, and finish it off with a signature move to remember their name by. I kicked it off and slowly the energy in the room shifted and we warmed up to each other. Our first dinner was light-hearted, yet conversation remained at surface level.
However, as the days went on we dove deeper and deeper into the work of the yoga practice. Sure, we did asana and movement, but I asked my students and myself some challenging questions not just to practice yoga, but to live it. I posed questions like, “Who do you think you are? What do you believe in that is bigger than you? What challenges your ego and makes you feel like the biggest failure? What are your harmful patterns? What do you love that you like to hold on to? What do you hate that you try to avoid?” After all, this is the work of the yoga practice; self-study (Svadyaya).
During the available free-time I did a little self-studying of my own. I took walks by myself, laid in my hammock and read, meditated, and sat and watched the sunset. Things I realize I don’t do enough of. I reflected on why I was nervous the first day and perhaps why the energy of the other women was a bit nervous as well.
I realized that somewhere inside of me I created a narrative of women judging, competing, and comparing. I can only speak for myself, but I am sure that I am not alone in this. Even if there is no actual threat, I realized that this was a mental pattern that I had formed perhaps from micro-traumas of past experiences.
We all have our work to do and the yoga practice simply shines a light on where it is. Through the practice of yoga and meditation, we can do some self-study to notice our patterns, attachments, expectations, and aversions. We can be aware of all of this without being in it. We can be with things as they come knowing that it is all temporary and that we are not alone in these temporary experiences.
On the last night, we went around the table again. But this time, we weren’t polite or reserved. We were vulnerable, raw, and real. We laughed, cried, embraced, and shared stories. This was the practice working. No walls, preconceived notions, or doubts necessary. Just women supporting other women.
My relationship with yoga began about 8 years ago. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, just a casual thing I could do to work out, get toned, and relieve stress. I would say for the first couple of classes it was purely physical. I was initially attracted to the practice for aesthetic reasons and instant gratification. What can I say? It was exciting and new. I was obsessed with the physical challenge, the sweat, the heat, the fancy arm balances and dance-like flow.
After only a year of my relationship with yoga, I decided to take the next step by enrolling in teacher training. That was when I really got to know the practice for what it was, which led to a deeper relationship. However, just like with any other relationship, the practice held a mirror up to my imperfections, challenges, attachments, fears and insecurities. But it wasn’t until I got hurt did I realize that my dependency on the practice to solve my problems, make me feel whole, and reinforce bad habits was not sustainable. From that moment, I changed the way I practiced, and I changed the way I taught. I began meditating, living my yoga, and using the poses to understand myself versus trying to force my body to be in a pose. For me, this was a game changer because my purpose was no longer about short-term results. Instead, it was about building a long-lasting and sustainable relationship with my practice.
With the increasing popularity of yoga, with various styles and schools advertising that their yoga is the best yoga, perhaps you may be questioning the validity of your relationship with the practice. But the truth is, that there isn’t one yoga that is universally better or more valid than another. Just like all relationships, they are just different from one another. So, whether your current relationship with yoga is flashy and exciting or simple and slow, the biggest question to ask yourself is, “Why am I here?” The answer may change from day to day, but as long as you find meaning in your practice, your relationship with yoga will go the distance.
Here Comes the Yoga
I am currently in full wedding planning mode as my fiancé, Xavier and I prep for our wedding in August of this year. And boy oh boy, do I have my work cut out for me. Of course, it is an exciting time, but a very stressful one at that. Being the organized person that I am, I always thought planning my wedding would be fun and easy. I built high expectations of the process through my perfectly curated Pinterest boards. Of course, I am being brought back down to reality and realizing that it isn’t as easy as it seems. I am having to ditch Plan A for a more budget-friendly Plan B, something that I am not very good at.
However, this is where I can use my yoga practice the most. I can tap into the philosophy and principles of the practice to make smart choices, I can use the tools of meditation to notice when I waist time and energy wishing things are different, I can adapt and set aside perfection just as I do in my asana practice, and through it all I can understand my habits and patterns that may be harmful. For what good is my yoga if I don’t know how to use it when I need it most?
Just as I discovered so much more to wedding planning than meets the eye, there is also so much more to yoga than the poses you see advertised on Instagram and done in classes. After all, yoga stems back over 5,000 years. Therefore, I have teamed up with my Yoga Harbor family to create a workshop series to help demystify yoga, so you can understand how to use your practice when you need it most in your life whether it be on or off the mat.
Hi, I'm Lauren and I am here to support people to find freedom in being authentic and the power to carry that out in their lives and community. Writing is one way I like to explore that for myself. Here is my archive of reflections.